My Ankles are Getting Older

I often think of weird questions. When I ask my weird questions of most people they just sort of scratch at their heads, give it a little shake as though getting rid of the strange notion I’ve put there, and giggle as though I was trying to be funny. The only person who seems to take these questions seriously, if with a bit of humor as well, is my best friend Sara.

Nobody takes these things as seriously as I do except for her, so when I have a questions I realize might be a bit odd, I text her instead of some poor soul who will spend the rest of the day wondering what the heck had they just been asked.

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One day I look down at my feet and they don’t look like mine anymore. I spend a few minutes puzzling over this, very upset that my ankles and feet look like someone else’s, before I decide to text Sara.

Me: So, trying to decide if my ankles are fatter, but think I’ve come to the conclusion they just look older.

I don’t even wait for her reply, I’m that distraught.

Me: Why didn’t anyone ever tell me even my ankles would start to look like they weren’t mine?

Sara: WHY IS ANKLES GETTING OLDER A THING? WHY!?

Me: EXACTLY! WHY!?

Me: Also, why did *my* brain decide to notice it? So not fair.

I’m pretty sure that Sara is the only one who would take ankles getting older seriously enough to engage in the conversation with me, not just look askance at her phone and ignore the questionable point I’m trying to make. I’m also aware how great of a friend she is as she did not ask me why I pointed out to her that ankles get older . I’m sure she would have been fine with never pondering that thought.

However, a long time ago I decided that if my brain has to suffer through these thoughts so should other people, but mostly Sara. It’s character building. You’re welcome.

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Waiting on Wednesday: The Raven Cycle Series Comes to an End

“Waiting On” Wednesday is a weekly event, hosted by Jill at Breaking the Spine, that spotlights upcoming releases that Book Bloggers are eagerly anticipating.

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I have a few books I’m waiting on, but one that I did not mention in yesterday’s post, Top Ten Tuesday: Top Ten Books I’ve Recently Added To My TBR is the latest book in the Raven Cycle by Maggie Stiefvater, The Raven King. I’m a huge fan of this series and can’t wait for the final installment to be published in April. I love the magical world, the characters, and the setting, a small Virginia town, much like the one I grew up in. Can’t wait!

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Summary from GoodReads:

The fourth and final installment in the spellbinding series from the irrepressible, #1 New York Times bestselling author Maggie Stiefvater.

All her life, Blue has been warned that she will cause her true love’s death. She doesn’t believe in true love and never thought this would be a problem, but as her life becomes caught up in the strange and sinister world of the Raven Boys, she’s not so sure anymore.

In a starred review for Blue Lily, Lily Blue, Kirkus Reviews declared: “Expect this truly one-of-a-kind series to come to a thundering close.”

 

Top Ten Tuesday: Top Ten Books I’ve Recently Added To My TBR

Top Ten Tuesday is a meme by The Broke and the Bookish where fellow book bloggers, and anyone who wants, can contribute to a themed top ten list. Today we are t pick the top ten books we’ve recently added to our tbr (to be read) piles. OMG, this list reminds me of all the books that are coming out this year!

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Next book in series list:

New to me authors and series:

  • Witch and Wizard by James Patterson. My sister-in-law recommended this book to me and I still need to get my hands on a copy.
  • The Girl with All the Gifts by  M.R. Carey. Another sister-in-law recommendation
  • How to Be a Woman by Caitlin Moran. I keep seeing this pop up in my reader by book bloggers reviewing and raving about it. I think I need to give this one a try.

Neil Gaiman, because he gets his own list.

Nodds & Nends: Jimmy Fallon as Jim Morrison, Top Television of 2015, and My Favorite New gif

I love Jimmy Fallon, I think he’s great! I know not everyone does, but for me Jimmy Fallon is someone who can make me laugh and feel better about life because of the joy of life that he brings to this world, and that is awesome. Here he is imitating Jim Morrison and singing Reading Rainbow. It’s nothing short of amazing.

Read Nerds of Color’s Top 15 Television Series of 2015 list. I may have to check out a couple of these I haven’t seen yet.

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Every time I watch this, I can't help but laugh! funny-gif-supermarket-Titanic-playing

I’m in love with this TARDIS Mini Satchel and Metal Charm Keychain Shoulder Handbag. GAH! Of course it is currently unavailable. Of course! [via Facebook]

Static Electricity and Kissing Patients

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Tuesday, I finally went and got my eyes checked and my prescription renewed. This has been a long time coming. My only excuse is that moving twice in two years makes everything harder, especially keeping up with doctor’s appointments. I met the doctor who was a short guy with warm brown skin, dark hair, and an eye nerd of the first order. I mean huge eye nerd. He could not stop talking about how much he enjoyed what he did. Which is great!

I shook his hand in introduction and static electricity, that seems permanently stored in my body, zinged between us.

“Sorry! I didn’t mean to zap you!” He said.

“It was probably me. ” I explained. “I seem to store static electricity somehow.”

“My 96 year old patient kissed me on the lips the other day, and I think both of us were charged with static, and I told him, ‘I think I saw sparks!'”

I really did not know how to respond to this. “…..Wow. Yah, that’s strange.” I ventured.

“Well, you know how it goes, sometimes they are going for the cheek and they get your lips.”

A reasonable explanation, but I still really do not understand this conversation, or what to say next. “I guess… that’s true.”

“Yah, kiddos, what can you do? My seven year old is not so affectionate any more, but my six year old is.” He explained.

Realization dawned. He said his kiddo kissed him on the lips, not his patient. That “you know how it goes” was really “you know kiddos.”

I knew I was about to laugh uncontrollably, but managed to blurt out, “Oh, you said your six year old kid. I thought you said your 96 year old patient and I was really confused why patients were kissing you!”

“Oh my! Yes, that would be strange.” He agreed.

I chuckled. “Maybe I need to see an ear doctor today as well!”

“I can look and see if there is one in this building.” He offered. He smiled, laughed, and continued, “This is probably the funniest conversation I’ve had all week!”

Good Woman vs Bad Woman: A Troubling Dichotomy

I found a really thoughtful and well written piece on the good woman versus bad woman because of their sexual choice dichotomy. Check out this article by The Mary Sue,  Sports Writer Speaks Against Objectification of Women By…Comparing Them to Hookers. Teresa Jusino, the author, makes several good points. It’s worth the five minute read.

You can’t talk about women’s worth while simultaneously judging which “types” of women “deserve” respect over others. If you think women deserve respect as human beings, then you don’t get to divide them up into “good” women and “bad” women because of what they choose to do with their bodies, sexually or otherwise.

This. The virgin vs sex worker dichotomy. The idea that a woman is good or bad depending on what she chooses to do with her body for sex.

I see this so often in movies, television, and a lot of the urban fantasy novels that I read. Judgement of a woman’s worth based on her desire to have or not have the sex (especially as it pertains to the male main protagonist). The ones having the sex in a manner not condoned by their society dying, just so the writers can get rid of the problem woman, the bad woman. ::coughfireflyheartofgoldcough:: I love me some Firefly, but a nice breaking of trope would have been Nandi in Heart of Gold still living and sexing people even when Mal left . She is not a problem woman, or a bad woman, just because she had sex with the main character who we all shipped with another character. No, Nandi’s worth should have been tied to her ability to lead women, take care of the employees in her charge, and create a safe haven on a rough planet. In those things she was capable and it would have been nice if she had been left alive to continue to do that.

When I find real female agency, a woman choosing to do what she wants for herself, and her worth dependent on her capabilities to lead, to fight, to care for others, her value is seen as what she does as a person and not in bed, then I rejoice. If she has female friends she does not cat fight with, but supports and who support her, my heart does a triple patter and my breath catches in aw. If the woman herself does not judge her worth by her sexual choices, but her ability to be the best person she can be in the situation she has been thrown into with the problems she suffers from her past, OMG, it is a miracle. Thankfully, these types of novels, shows, and movies do exist and they point the way for those still struggling to catch up. (If you haven’t already, read my Top Ten Reasons to Watch Dark Matter to learn about one show that does it right.)

Hopefully a trend of female agency and worth based on competency in responsibilities will continue to be a growing trend in the years to come. I am grateful to find that I do come across it more often, if not as much as I would like.